Good day, My husband’s ex wife remarried and her new husband formally adopted my husband’s kids afte…
My husband’s ex wife remarried and her new husband formally adopted my husband’s kids after a long and ugly divorce. Birth certificates, surnames etc all changed. He had no contact with them for about 8 years and paid no support either. In July this year, his ex contacted him and requested that his son (17) come to live with us as their relationship is very strained. (The step-father passed away a few years ago). His son moved in with us towards the end of July 2019 and we took over all expenses except for medical aid. There was nothing in writing about the arrangement though. End of September my husband passed away and both his son and ex wife asked if his son can stay on with me. I am now paying all his expenses. I have two concerns.
1. Should I get anything in writing with regards to guardianship?
2. With the payout of my husband’s RA, they now recognise his son as one of his dependents as he paid his expenses for 2 months and therefor a portion of the RA should be allocated to him. As he is still a minor, this portion however, will be paid directly to his mother’s bank account. Which means I won’t get the money, yet I am raising him and paying for everything. What do I do here?